Every relationship can go through dry spells when your partner is suddenly less interested in sex than you. It may be due to stress at work or other issues like sudden, hectic schedule or a do-or-die work deadline.
While dry spells like this can resolve on their own once things stabilize, a prolonged and unexplained disinterest in sex can be harmful to a relationship.
Causes of loss of sexual interest
The causes of loss of sexual interest can include stress, depression, erectile dysfunction, hormone imbalances, genital pain, chronic illness, medications, low self-esteem, and relationship problems.
So while you may assume that your partner is having an affair or has simply lost interest in you, you need to be open to all possibilities.
How to tackle the problem
When you are approaching your spouse about sexual problems in the relationship, don’t ask them in the bedroom. Instead, find some neutral place where you can be along and not be disturbed.
If your partner is able to recognize the problem, work together to find the solution.
If your partner doesn’t know what the cause is but acknowledges it’s existence, suggest a physical exam with the doctor.
If your partner is reluctant to discuss the issue, you need to take charge and not take things personally. In the end, this is not about you failing your partner or your partner failing you. It means that you both need to take ownership of the problem as a couple.
It is important to know that solving any relationship problem, whether it be sexual, financial, or emotional is a process and not an event. Take your time, be patient and if needed, seek counseling to ensure your confidence remain intact.