1. Women generally need longer to have an orgasm than men, who take about 7 to 14 minutes. These are just averages of course. You may be faster or slower, and it can be different from one time to the next.
  2. Having an orgasm and ejaculating are two different things. They usually happen together. For many men, a powerful ejaculation is the best part of an orgasm. Other men keep feeling the orgasm well after they release semen. After age 40, a man may ejaculate less, but he can still have orgasm.
  3. Men younger than 30 are more likely than older men to have multiple orgasms. After an orgasm, most men need a rest period before they can get another erection. If he’s older, it may be a few hours. But if he’s younger, he may be up and ready in a few minutes.
  4. Most women need more than just penetration to get there. To see the real fireworks, most women need stimulation of the clitoris as well. Sometimes, the position you use during sex can make the difference. But some women just don’t have an orgasm during sex, ever. Whichever way you go can be normal.
  5. There is no such thing as “too much” masturbation. As long as it doesn’t get in the way of your daily life, it can’t physically hurt you. Masturbation helps some people learn about orgasm, and it doesn’t prevent a guy from having one during sex.
  6. Some large studies have shown that both men and women who have orgasms often live longer than those who don’t.
  7. Sweating, panting, moaning, body vibrations are classic signs of an orgasm. But orgasm can be milder too. Instead of feeling a volcanic eruption, you may just reach a peak of arousal and then feel relaxed and contented. Focus on what you do feel and enjoy it.
  8. Using a condom may make sex feel different, especially if a guy is used to having it without one. But a guy can learn to have orgasm while wearing a condom. Don’t stop at the first brand you buy. Experiment with other types until you find one that you like.