Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy. It often dissipates when the real person surfaces.
However, real love, not based on idealization or projection requires time to get to know each other. If you’r in a relationship in which lust seems more evident than love, fear not.
Lust is not excluded from love, in fact, it can lead to love. All it takes is time, patience, honesty and self – discovery. A good relationship is that which balances both.
Here are 7 signs of lust.
1. You’re dressed to impress.
You make sure you look your best when you’re with them. If you are a woman, you invest your time and money to wax your eyebrows, wear makeup and choose clothing that flatters your body shape. If you are a man, you make sure to wear your best suit and look clean and groomed. You’re hyper-aware of your appearance when you’re in object of lust’s presence. This indicates that your relationship is merely superficial.
2. A dearth of meaningful conversations.
You never feel about talking about things like your problems, worries, dreams and life with your partner. It makes you feel uncomfortable and uneasy. This means that you have not yet reached a point in your relationship that you are both open to each other’s flaws and imperfections. True love is friendship, while lust is just a relationship that is shallow and unfulfilling to the heart.
3. They look like sin.
You see your partner as the literal reincarnation of the god/goddess of love. They seem to be blessed with incredible beauty and you feel amazed that they are yours. You think that they are perfect and can do no wrong. However, no one is perfect and this realization is where true love blossoms. A romantic relationship is that in which you do not care about the physical appearance of your partner but rather what lies within: their personality, kindness, passion and dreams.
4. Your time is spent tumbling.
The majority of your time alone together is spent being physically intimate. It seems like no matter what activities you plan together, they always end up in sex. While having sex is also a method of expressing your feelings, it should not be the only one.
5. You don’t connect on an emotional level.
If your silences are uncomfortable and awkward, that screams pure lust. If you are in love with someone, you are comfortable with their silence and are content with even mundane activities like lying on your sides and staring into each other’s eyes. In a lusty relationship, there is no communication. You don’t dare talk about things like your feelings, out of fear that it will create distance between you two.
6. Your memories are of the bedroom alone.
Think about the place where you normally spend time together. It is probably the bedroom. You prefer being together away from public places or ‘date-like’ scenarios.
7. No plans for the future.
You tell them how beautiful they are and how much you want them often, but when it comes to the future, you keep your mouth zipped shut. The thought of long -term commitment, children, joint bank accounts and shared vacations has not crossed your mind. You only want to stay like this forever.
However, a relationship based on lust fizzles out quickly.
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