Break ups are hard. Whether you are the dumper Or the dumpee, it’s a very difficult thing to deal with. You might feel like you will never make it out of the heart shattering sadness, but you will.
Here are five things you can do to help put yourself back together after a break up.
1. Experience it.
The only way to really get over a break up is to deal with it. Don’t distract yourself, let yourself feel the emotions one at a time. There will be good times and there will be bad but the most important thing is to give yourself time. If you feel like crying, cry. Crying is a bad reputation but it’s extremely therapeutic. Crying isn’t loosing control, it’s gaining it back through owning your emotions.
2. Focus on yourself.
After being the second half of a couple for a while, you tend to forget what it feels like to be on your own again. Be your own person. Do whatever you feel like doing. It can be done in a number of ways. Treat yourself to something nice like a delicious dinner, you can even set personal goals for yourself, buy yourself a nice outfit, take time to remind yourself of who you are.
3. Try new things.
Have you wanted to take a guitar lesson, take a yoga class, finally read that book you bought three years ago? Well, now you have the time. Find a new hobby or take a class you have been wanting to take. Meet new people and most importantly, get your ex out of your mind.
4. Reach out to family and friends.
Friends and family are around for a reason. True friends are people who love and support you no matter what. You deserve their time and attention and shouldn’t be afraid to reach out and ask for it. Spend weekends reconnecting with your parents, grandparents and siblings. Not only that. Consider volunteering to help others. This also let you go out and meet new people. You make new friends and possibly a new love interest.
5. Move on.
It’s not uncommon for two people to break up and wanna remain friends but the most important thing you can do is to set yourself from that person.
If that means taking a month long vacation to South Africa, so be it. Don’t text, call or email them. What you both need at this point is space. Breakups create emotional wounds and if you are in constant contact with your ex, you will never give yourself the time you need to heal. After the healing process, go out and meet new people.
There is some truth to the old adage “the best way to get over someone is to get on to someone. Join some dating site and go out. You are sure to meet someone new, someone you can connect to on a deeper level.
Break ups are difficult but they are not the end of the world. In fact it’s a start to something new and better.
Share your thoughts and any tips you have on dealing with break up in the comment section.